After this story had been posted yesterday, another shitstorm about it being pedophilic has started. In the summary, the character in this story (which is willingly transforming himself into a muscle jock) is described as 16. Other than that there is no indication about his age, he’s not described as looking young or even twinkish.
A few people started to shout at the author, that he supposedly endorsed pedophilia, and at me for allowing that. In one mail (the only one I’ve got), somebody wrote:
good to know that the site is in the hands of a sick fuck pedophile, never supporting you on patreon or donating ever again
Not that this person ever had donated before.
This is the reason I, once again, wrote up the rules and the motivation for them. This should be the end of it, and we could move on.
However, I am really really pissed by that attitude of those people, especially US citizens, who seem to only see their own view on life as the only valid one and want to force their point of view on everyone on the whole world.
You know, as I’ve grown up, I’ve always looked very favorably at the United States, as it stood for democracy, morality, tolerance, freedom and humanity. There were the US series I loved, like Star Trek TNG or Babylon 5, which told such a nice message about how people should deal with each other, which gave me the impression that most people in the US are really decent people.
Because of that impression, I had even considered to try to immigrate into the US at some point.
However, as I grew older, I learned more about the ‘dark side’ of that country. A history of slavery, racism which is still a dominant part of society even today. Religious puritans which stand for the absolute opposite of everything I believe in.
Every country has its dark side, and especially we Germans have a burden to carry because of our history. And these days, more and more people in Germany are full of hate, prejudice, and racism.
But on top of that, I realized that many US people seem to think they have the right to tell everybody on this earth that their way of life is the only right one, that they are the moral compass everything has to be measured by, and that everyone has to follow their way. If you don’t, you’re either a bad person or stupid.
I call this moral imperialism!
This hubris is really getting to me. In the last couple of years, with the Tea Party, Republicans who actually think that a fair health care and taking care of the poorest people is pure socialism, Trump and everything else that’s happening really turned my point of view I had on this country around like 180°.
I know it’s not all Americans, but the sheer amount of people who are more or less thinking like this is really fucking frightening. I am just glad that I am not living in that country.
Back to the topic at hand:
Using the word “pedophile” for someone who has sex with a 16 or even 14 year old is actually just watering down that term. A pedophile is attracted to children. Not teenagers! He’s attracted to kids who are not in their puberty yet at all. As soon as puberty kicks in, a kid becomes uninteresting to a pedophile!
Somebody who acts on his pedophilic sex drive is always doing abhorrent things to helpless little humans, who are at total mercy of their abusers. This is about the most abhorrent and evil thing you can do.
So using that term for a 20-year-old who loves a 16-year-old is simply wrong, wrong, wrong. It just relatives the horror of that word, it just makes it commonplace.
You know, in my direct neighbourship lives a young woman who started her first relationship with a boy when she was 14. Now she’s 16, her boyfriend is 20. Her parents know about this, and they even want him to stay during the night - fully aware of what’s happening in her room - because they rather know about her sexual life instead of being lied at and having to learn that their girl ended up in the wrong company.
This is a fact of life. Their love is beautiful, the young man is gentle, nice, caring and they might even start a whole life together.
But US people and US law want to call him a pedophile. Fuck it!
I am not going to be judged by puritans, I am not going to allow US law to rule over me. It’s not my law, it doesn’t apply to me, and I actively reject it.
End of rant.